Only Two

Where is the horror?  Two innocent people have been murdered… a teacher and an 8 year old child… IN A SCHOOL

If you blinked, you may have missed our most recent school shooting.  It was yesterday, when a man waltzed through the front office, signed in, went into a classroom and opened fire in front of children, killing the teacher, her eight year old student, and injuring a nine-year old.  I heard about it in one on-line story about an hour after the incident and then again on NPR as I was driving home.  By the time I settled down with my glass of wine and grading to do, CNN was covering Trump’s excessive golf habits, the doctor being dragged off of a United flight and the Syrian bombing… I watched for two hours and there was no mention of the shooting… WTF?

I guess domestic violence does not get ratings… not to mention that both the victim and shooter were black, the slaughter happened in a brown neighborhood, and only one child was killed…. I am disgusted to think that we only care about Islamic terrorism, violence that is racially driven, mass murder, or manifestos.  We SHOULD care about this…

They were newly weds, he was a church going blessed man, she was a special ed teacher… but things were going wrong, she tried to leave a man that was scaring her and…  HE HAD A GUN… HE HAD A GUN… HE HAD A GUN…

Where is our RED LINE, our 59 missiles, our repeal and replace of gun regulation, our metal detectors in every school across the nation, our extra funding for mental health (or marital health), our wall against gun violence…

Those two innocents meant the world to the people who loved them… but that crime didn’t play into our narrative of things we need to rally against… really?  Here in ‘Make America Great Land’ you are more likely to be shot by a fellow American either by accident or because he is a bit ‘off’, than you are to be killed by a terrorist… let’s put America first by taking care of THIS business…. domestic violence and access to guns needs to be addressed… the end

Minor Inconvenience

Only a minor inconvenience… 90 days… that is nothing… people can be properly vetted and go back to their regular life… I am not sure why the country is making such a stink.  Okay, folks, here we go…

I am sure you have heard the stories of the Fulbright scholarship student whose plane was turned around, the Iraqi translator who worked for the US military, and the man (with an MBA) with his wife and three children who had waited two years to be vetted, sold his house and was pulled off the plane in Cairo… they have all been inconvenienced by this new policy and how it is being enforced across the world.  We are only protecting ourselves, keeping America safe… why should anyone be upset? This all because we have built up a collective fear of terrorists… they kill, on average, 120 Americans a year over the past 20 years (that is including 9/11)…  But wait a second… domestic gun violence kills, on average, 12,000 people a year… cigarettes kill, on average 480,000 people a year… and 2,200 Americans die EACH DAY from heart disease…

So, until we get a ‘handle’ on THIS situation, let’s put a 90 day ban on the sale of any new firearm, a 90 day ban on the sale of cigarettes, and a 90 day ban on the sale of animal products like beef… it is only a minor inconvenience… let’s keep America safe…

Oh, is that going too far?  It is only 90 days, and I don’t own a gun, smoke cigarettes or eat meat… so how bad will that really be?  It is really for your own good and the good of our country.

And if you think that this new Trump executive order will have any effect on our safety, I hope you realize that it will… we are in far more danger after this stupid move than we were Friday morning.  This just fuels the flames of radical groups, gives Muslims and Muslim countries reasons to fear and distrust us and puts our citizens and country in jeopardy…

This ‘minor inconvenience’ is just the tip of the iceberg… Stand up against hate, fear and tyranny… Trump has already proven he is unfit… continue to resist and speak out! His whole presidency is an inconvenience…

What Will You Do?

What do I tell my children, what do I tell my students, and what would I tell children of color across our country? I don’t know the answer.

Like much of America, I was horrified by the two most recent tragic deaths of black men at the hands of the police.  My son was devastated and hopeless after seeing the video almost as it was happening.   As I tried to console him, I realized that I really didn’t know what we could do.  He is a college student and older family members continually insist that if he is upset about what is happening in the world HE needs to work towards change.  Really? He is 20, doesn’t have a car, or money, or power…

He asked me what I was doing to make the world better… ‘I teach’, I told him. ‘I teach love, kindness, understanding, respect, and listening’.  It seems like the lessons I teach to first graders have been lost on many in our nation.

We, white Americans, look at those videos and wonder what happened that we couldn’t see or hear, that made the officer kill the victim.  Other black Americans share their stories of how they acted ‘properly’ when stopped by police and came out of the situation unharmed.  Facebook is filled with memes stating ‘I stand with the police’.  None of these approaches will solve this epidemic of police shootings, gun violence, terror on our communities of color, or the tragedy that just happened last night in Dallas. They perpetuate the problem. They do not validate the reality in our country. We need to support all… Police, military, fellow citizens of America and the world…

We have a systemic disease that started over a hundred years ago and our black brothers and sisters suffer from it every day.  People are angry and hurt.  I am thankful for the people who go into law enforcement.  Much like myself, they have dedicated their lives to making our country a better place and helping to keep us safe.  Are there incompetent teachers? Yes, they get put on a plan of assisted and if they don’t improve they lose their jobs.  Are there incompetent police officers? Yes. But the results of their incompetence can be far more tragic.  Wrong is wrong and unless we are willing to see that, the suffering will continue.

The police officers in Dallas were there to protect a peaceful protest. They  had guns and still they were victims.  Perhaps those of us who care about protecting our Second Amendment rights will finally see that we have a gun issue and begin to be willing to make concessions to that right.  You do not need a gun… You need to lead with love and kindness… Change will come when we fight for understanding and that fight can not be with guns…

Police training and accountability often comes into question during times like this.  Use of force training by police in Scotland is very different from how American police are trained.  We need to stop saying America is wonderful and amazing and the best in the world.  We are not that great… We have problems, big ones! We are terrorizing each other, black Americans are oppressed and live in fear, police are targeted and disrespected, gun violence is prevalent, hate crimes and anti-semitism continue, young people are murdered, we have a presidential candidate who spouts hatred, bigotry and stupidity and much of America hangs on his every word.  -and that is the short list.

I have read several pieces telling me that I am not doing enough, that I can not understand the problem, that I am part of the problem…because I am white.  I can not change the color of my skin anymore than anyone can change theirs.  I have been told that it is not my place to speak out because then I am contributing to the ‘white knight’ syndrome and I don’t really understand the problem.  I do not accept that. I MUST join this fight… a fight for understanding and change

I told my son that I would do my best to make things better.  I will show kindness and love, I will forgive quickly, I will smile easily, I will be grateful for what I have, I will show respect and humanity to others, and I will speak out in words and with my vote.

What will you do?

 

Too Soon…

They said this after Sandyhook, after UCC and again I heard a leader in Orlando say it this morning….it is too soon, after this horrific event, to talk about politics and gun control…. WAKE UP, AMERICA…. For those 50 people who were murdered, the 53 people who are fighting for their lives, for those who survived and will be forever changed, and for everyone who knew and loved someone involved IT IS TOO LATE! They are suffering the consequences of politicians who are afraid of not getting elected by standing up to the NRA and the gun lobby…. They are suffering because many of us,collectively, believe that our right to go hunting and protect ourselves would be compromised if assault riffles were banned and all guns were made more difficult to obtain…. They are suffering because we throw our hands up in the air and say there are too many guns out there already to make any change meaningful….

So, we do nothing… We wait… For the next time…. for the next idiot to say, ‘It is too soon to have this discussion.’… Shame on us!  It is time to raise up our voices and demand this change… DEMAND IT! The weight of this loss sits with political leaders who spew hate, are afraid of the gun lobby, and say things like ‘they reap what they sow’… If you are part of the problem it is time to step away and let those who have love for their fellow human beings take up the task of making our country a better place… You have done your job, he got his guns legally, and look at the results!

When we live in a country where people have to fight for their right to be treated with dignity, get a wedding cake with two grooms on top, or use the proper bathroom we are perpetuating the idea that somehow THOSE victims were lesser than other victims.  Standing behind the bible, God, morality, the Second Ammendment, or whatever is just unacceptable… We should be better than that!  LGBTQ rights ARE human rights…

*this was really two pieces in one…a bit meandering

I’ve Never Owned a Gun

Hooray for President Obama! As I drove home on Monday NPR was reporting on the executive action taken by President Obama on gun violence in America.  I listened as he spoke from his heart and held back tears over the young lives lost these past years.  This action will not change much in Oregon but will make the sale of guns without having background checks illegal in other states across our country.  He is trying to make every seller have a license to sell and require all purchases at gun shows and over the Internet be held responsible for doing a background check.

30,000 Americans die every year because of a gun.  Whether it is an accident, suicide,  terrorism,  violent crime or mass shooting, those people are gone because they were struck by a bullet.  There are 350,000,000 guns in 65,000,000 households across America.  There is no possible way that the government can possibly do anything to eliminate gun ownership in our country.  This is what the republican politicians, NRA, and fearful gun owners want you to believe… They want you to think that Obama is going to send someone to your house and take your guns… It is ludicrous and idiotic that some people really believe this.  But here is a question… Do you have any connection to someone who has been shot? If you do then you have a stake in this discussion and it is not really about mental health… On any given day any given teenager may feel that their life isn’t worth living… Do you want that child to have access to a gun? I saw someone post hat gun violence is down… Super… Does that change he fact that 30,000 Americans die from guns every year? I don’t think so…

President Obama did one small thing… Good for him! I hope our next president doesn’t have as many people standing in their way so they can do more… I’ve never owned a gun, I don’t want one in my house, and I believe in gun control… get with it, America!

 

A Good Guy With A Gun

Over and over I have heard this phrase in the news, on Facebook and in conversations with friends.  We don’t want to keep guns away from the ‘good guys’. And, if more ‘good guys’ had guns, gun violence would decrease and lives would be saved.

I am sorry, folks, but I am not buying it.  We are saying that anyone who doesn’t have a criminal record, is a known terrorist, a domestic abuser, or has a history of mental illness is a good guy… EVERYONE! Are you really comfortable with that?

Twenty-seven Americans were killed with guns on Christmas Day… And that was a slow day for us… A good day by about ten victims.  In our country someone is a good guy until they prove otherwise.  But the truth  is that even if the guy with the gun is a good guy, good guys still make mistakes… They misfire or leave them out unsecured for children to find, they have accidents when they are cleaning their guns, or they mistake a friend for an enemy… And some people live a very long life before they make that switch from good guy to bad guy… A man in his seventies killed his wife and then himself this past month.

Your argument may be that more people are killed in cars every day… So what? We also are required to prove that we are capable of using a car every few years .. You make enough mistakes as a driver and you lose your right to drive.

So I would like the same rigor to be applied to gun owners. I want them trained and tested regularly.  But really for me the bottom line is that the only ‘good guy’ I want to have a gun is someone wearing a uniform and sometime they make mistakes, too.

I Am Not Afraid To Say It

It is easy to be angry about the cavalier attitudes surrounding gun rights. Everyone can and does agree that mass shootings and gun violence in general are terrible, out of control and should stop.  People on both sides of the debate do agree on that.  But when gun rights advocates (like guns actually have rights) are asked what can be done to help this issue their answer is more guns.  When ordinary gun owners are asked they often say that they don’t know what could be done. Because the real answer is something they don’t want to hear.

I was talking to several friends the other day about this subject and two of these friends owned guns although they did not hunt or carry them.  We began our discussion with the mass shooting at UCC, our town’s community college.  It was their belief and, with the system  we have now, mine as well, that nothing could really have been done to change the path that man was on two months ago.  We talked about changing the availability of certain types of guns and background checks but then our conversation turned.

We are all people who work with children and have done so for many years. Our conversation became a list of children we knew from our tiny community who had been shot accidentally over the years. Hunting, gun cleaning, playing around and suicide had taken the lives or terribly injured so many.

So when we talk about taking away assault rifles, increasing background checks or serving the mentally ill we are not addressing this issue.  The issue is that people have guns in their homes and when you have a gun in your home you or someone you care about is more likely to get shot. The solution is really more regulation on ALL guns… If you feel the need to have a gun they have smart guns that can only be operated by the owner of the gun and technology in this area is growing.  I am not afraid to say it… ALL GUNS CAN KILL… You don’t need to be mentally unbalanced or a religious extremist to run the possibility of ruining your life and the lives of others with a gun… You just need to have a gun.