Don’t Make It Easy

If you live in Oregon you know this… we can not buy Sudafed at the pharmacy.  We can’t buy it here in Oregon because some people misuse the ingredients to make meth.  If you have to go to work and you have a cold, Sudafed is the best way to kick it for the day.   We have outlawed a medication because a few people can’t be responsible. We don’t want to make it easy for drug dealers.

Years ago my mother was running late for work.  An animal like sound came from across the street… it became a tortured scream.  The neighbor boy had tried to kill himself with one of their family’s guns.  He was lucky, my mom was there and he lived. Years later, in the early morning my phone rang. I sat in my kitchen as my boss told me that my coworker’s 16-year old son had committed suicide with his father’s gun. Then there was an early morning meeting to tell us that a student had accidentally shot and killed his brother.  Of course there was Columbine, Sandy Hook, UCC and many, many more… but those were the big ones… The small ones are the ones we, as a nation, never hear about.  They are the hunting accidents, the suicides, the accidental shootings, the children picking up guns and the sudden bad decisions made in anger that take only one or two lives.  

As a nation we are willing to do whatever it takes to keep our people safe.  We have laws about wearing helmets, wearing seat belts, using a phone in the car, how much medication a person in pain is allowed to receive at once, where we are allowed to carry our glass of wine or bottle of beer in public, how high we need to make a railing, and the age we are required to send our children to school.  

We may never be able to foresee the acts of a mad man or the lengths he is willing to go to do harm… but we can prevent accidents, curb successful suicides, and stifle something done in the heat of the moment (think road rage), and make it extremely difficult to commit mass murder… either way we don’t have to make it easy to hurt someone.

If you own a gun you and your family are far more likely to be injured by a gun. Period. If you own a gun you have to realize that YOUR gun may be used to commit a crime.  A gun really has one purpose: To kill something. You can say it is for protection, for hunting, for target practice, for sport… but it really is just to kill.  We need to care more about keeping our society safe than about owning guns.  Owning a gun does not make you safe… it makes you part of the problem… I know that is harsh, because no one wants to admit that something they believe is a right may need to be restricted or even eliminated…  Let’s not make hurting each other easier than it has to be.

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Only Two

Where is the horror?  Two innocent people have been murdered… a teacher and an 8 year old child… IN A SCHOOL

If you blinked, you may have missed our most recent school shooting.  It was yesterday, when a man waltzed through the front office, signed in, went into a classroom and opened fire in front of children, killing the teacher, her eight year old student, and injuring a nine-year old.  I heard about it in one on-line story about an hour after the incident and then again on NPR as I was driving home.  By the time I settled down with my glass of wine and grading to do, CNN was covering Trump’s excessive golf habits, the doctor being dragged off of a United flight and the Syrian bombing… I watched for two hours and there was no mention of the shooting… WTF?

I guess domestic violence does not get ratings… not to mention that both the victim and shooter were black, the slaughter happened in a brown neighborhood, and only one child was killed…. I am disgusted to think that we only care about Islamic terrorism, violence that is racially driven, mass murder, or manifestos.  We SHOULD care about this…

They were newly weds, he was a church going blessed man, she was a special ed teacher… but things were going wrong, she tried to leave a man that was scaring her and…  HE HAD A GUN… HE HAD A GUN… HE HAD A GUN…

Where is our RED LINE, our 59 missiles, our repeal and replace of gun regulation, our metal detectors in every school across the nation, our extra funding for mental health (or marital health), our wall against gun violence…

Those two innocents meant the world to the people who loved them… but that crime didn’t play into our narrative of things we need to rally against… really?  Here in ‘Make America Great Land’ you are more likely to be shot by a fellow American either by accident or because he is a bit ‘off’, than you are to be killed by a terrorist… let’s put America first by taking care of THIS business…. domestic violence and access to guns needs to be addressed… the end

Minor Inconvenience

Only a minor inconvenience… 90 days… that is nothing… people can be properly vetted and go back to their regular life… I am not sure why the country is making such a stink.  Okay, folks, here we go…

I am sure you have heard the stories of the Fulbright scholarship student whose plane was turned around, the Iraqi translator who worked for the US military, and the man (with an MBA) with his wife and three children who had waited two years to be vetted, sold his house and was pulled off the plane in Cairo… they have all been inconvenienced by this new policy and how it is being enforced across the world.  We are only protecting ourselves, keeping America safe… why should anyone be upset? This all because we have built up a collective fear of terrorists… they kill, on average, 120 Americans a year over the past 20 years (that is including 9/11)…  But wait a second… domestic gun violence kills, on average, 12,000 people a year… cigarettes kill, on average 480,000 people a year… and 2,200 Americans die EACH DAY from heart disease…

So, until we get a ‘handle’ on THIS situation, let’s put a 90 day ban on the sale of any new firearm, a 90 day ban on the sale of cigarettes, and a 90 day ban on the sale of animal products like beef… it is only a minor inconvenience… let’s keep America safe…

Oh, is that going too far?  It is only 90 days, and I don’t own a gun, smoke cigarettes or eat meat… so how bad will that really be?  It is really for your own good and the good of our country.

And if you think that this new Trump executive order will have any effect on our safety, I hope you realize that it will… we are in far more danger after this stupid move than we were Friday morning.  This just fuels the flames of radical groups, gives Muslims and Muslim countries reasons to fear and distrust us and puts our citizens and country in jeopardy…

This ‘minor inconvenience’ is just the tip of the iceberg… Stand up against hate, fear and tyranny… Trump has already proven he is unfit… continue to resist and speak out! His whole presidency is an inconvenience…

Why I Marched…

I read a great piece of writing earlier this week addressed to a group of women who are posting and re-posting a list of reasons they disagree with the idea of a Women’s March and feel the march was not for them… I was at the march in Eugene… yes, many, including myself wore pink ‘pussy’ hats… they were pink hats with CAT EARS… if you are offended by THAT how is it you are not raising your voice against our own president who said he could grab any woman in the ‘pussy’ because he has money and power. He was not being clever, coy, or using a play on words… even if he had used a different word, the message that it is okay to grab a woman in her privates should be far more offensive than women wearing pink hats marching for equal rights and the marginalized people of our society.

I appreciate that I feel equal, that I am respected in the workplace and by my husband, that I can choose to hang out with friends whenever I want, and that I can, in my life, do anything my husband can do… I am lucky.  I am privileged. And because I know that I have privilege, I know that others must not have those same privileges.

In our country, women can join the military.  Women fought for that right… but along with it came catcalls, snide remarks, harassment, and sexual assault.  And along with speaking out against those conditions came blame, rude remarks, and a whole slew of difficulties and persecution .  I am not saying that every woman in the military goes through this, but many have and just dismissed it as ‘the price you pay’ or ‘part of that culture’ . That is just unacceptable.

Women typically pay more when getting a mortgage, buying a car, and when buying nearly identical clothing items or personal products…. is that okay with you? Maybe it is

But, for me, this march was by women standing in opposition to everything Trump represents.  We have seen, over the course of a few days, the ways he is taking action on his scary promises.  Tech companies have stopped their immigrant employees, who work lawfully in our country, from traveling outside of the country on company business for fear that they won’t be able to get back in if the leave.   People coming in with visas have been detained in New York. People in Cairo, with visas, are being  stopped from getting on their planes. According to a BBC report, over 13,000 Americans were killed by gun violence in 2015. That is over four times more than have been killed by terrorism from 2001-2013. But, it is easier to address those outside threats than look at our own obsession with owning guns. Trump is targeting a group of people… will that make our country safer? Will it make you safer?

I marched because Trump is dredging the swamp and putting those super wealthy insiders in the most powerful positions in our country. I marched for healthcare, for the right to collectively bargain, for immigrants, for refugees, for the right to choose, for clean air, for public schools, for Native lands, for my LGBTQ brothers and sisters, and for our children.

So, women’s rights are a huge issue…. but I marched for that and far more… I marched because I am American and believe in what America represents and that is the antithesis of the road Trump is leading us down.

I will not be quiet.  Let me know when we march again…. I’ve got my hat ready to go!

What Will You Do?

What do I tell my children, what do I tell my students, and what would I tell children of color across our country? I don’t know the answer.

Like much of America, I was horrified by the two most recent tragic deaths of black men at the hands of the police.  My son was devastated and hopeless after seeing the video almost as it was happening.   As I tried to console him, I realized that I really didn’t know what we could do.  He is a college student and older family members continually insist that if he is upset about what is happening in the world HE needs to work towards change.  Really? He is 20, doesn’t have a car, or money, or power…

He asked me what I was doing to make the world better… ‘I teach’, I told him. ‘I teach love, kindness, understanding, respect, and listening’.  It seems like the lessons I teach to first graders have been lost on many in our nation.

We, white Americans, look at those videos and wonder what happened that we couldn’t see or hear, that made the officer kill the victim.  Other black Americans share their stories of how they acted ‘properly’ when stopped by police and came out of the situation unharmed.  Facebook is filled with memes stating ‘I stand with the police’.  None of these approaches will solve this epidemic of police shootings, gun violence, terror on our communities of color, or the tragedy that just happened last night in Dallas. They perpetuate the problem. They do not validate the reality in our country. We need to support all… Police, military, fellow citizens of America and the world…

We have a systemic disease that started over a hundred years ago and our black brothers and sisters suffer from it every day.  People are angry and hurt.  I am thankful for the people who go into law enforcement.  Much like myself, they have dedicated their lives to making our country a better place and helping to keep us safe.  Are there incompetent teachers? Yes, they get put on a plan of assisted and if they don’t improve they lose their jobs.  Are there incompetent police officers? Yes. But the results of their incompetence can be far more tragic.  Wrong is wrong and unless we are willing to see that, the suffering will continue.

The police officers in Dallas were there to protect a peaceful protest. They  had guns and still they were victims.  Perhaps those of us who care about protecting our Second Amendment rights will finally see that we have a gun issue and begin to be willing to make concessions to that right.  You do not need a gun… You need to lead with love and kindness… Change will come when we fight for understanding and that fight can not be with guns…

Police training and accountability often comes into question during times like this.  Use of force training by police in Scotland is very different from how American police are trained.  We need to stop saying America is wonderful and amazing and the best in the world.  We are not that great… We have problems, big ones! We are terrorizing each other, black Americans are oppressed and live in fear, police are targeted and disrespected, gun violence is prevalent, hate crimes and anti-semitism continue, young people are murdered, we have a presidential candidate who spouts hatred, bigotry and stupidity and much of America hangs on his every word.  -and that is the short list.

I have read several pieces telling me that I am not doing enough, that I can not understand the problem, that I am part of the problem…because I am white.  I can not change the color of my skin anymore than anyone can change theirs.  I have been told that it is not my place to speak out because then I am contributing to the ‘white knight’ syndrome and I don’t really understand the problem.  I do not accept that. I MUST join this fight… a fight for understanding and change

I told my son that I would do my best to make things better.  I will show kindness and love, I will forgive quickly, I will smile easily, I will be grateful for what I have, I will show respect and humanity to others, and I will speak out in words and with my vote.

What will you do?

 

Too Soon…

They said this after Sandyhook, after UCC and again I heard a leader in Orlando say it this morning….it is too soon, after this horrific event, to talk about politics and gun control…. WAKE UP, AMERICA…. For those 50 people who were murdered, the 53 people who are fighting for their lives, for those who survived and will be forever changed, and for everyone who knew and loved someone involved IT IS TOO LATE! They are suffering the consequences of politicians who are afraid of not getting elected by standing up to the NRA and the gun lobby…. They are suffering because many of us,collectively, believe that our right to go hunting and protect ourselves would be compromised if assault riffles were banned and all guns were made more difficult to obtain…. They are suffering because we throw our hands up in the air and say there are too many guns out there already to make any change meaningful….

So, we do nothing… We wait… For the next time…. for the next idiot to say, ‘It is too soon to have this discussion.’… Shame on us!  It is time to raise up our voices and demand this change… DEMAND IT! The weight of this loss sits with political leaders who spew hate, are afraid of the gun lobby, and say things like ‘they reap what they sow’… If you are part of the problem it is time to step away and let those who have love for their fellow human beings take up the task of making our country a better place… You have done your job, he got his guns legally, and look at the results!

When we live in a country where people have to fight for their right to be treated with dignity, get a wedding cake with two grooms on top, or use the proper bathroom we are perpetuating the idea that somehow THOSE victims were lesser than other victims.  Standing behind the bible, God, morality, the Second Ammendment, or whatever is just unacceptable… We should be better than that!  LGBTQ rights ARE human rights…

*this was really two pieces in one…a bit meandering

I’ve Never Owned a Gun

Hooray for President Obama! As I drove home on Monday NPR was reporting on the executive action taken by President Obama on gun violence in America.  I listened as he spoke from his heart and held back tears over the young lives lost these past years.  This action will not change much in Oregon but will make the sale of guns without having background checks illegal in other states across our country.  He is trying to make every seller have a license to sell and require all purchases at gun shows and over the Internet be held responsible for doing a background check.

30,000 Americans die every year because of a gun.  Whether it is an accident, suicide,  terrorism,  violent crime or mass shooting, those people are gone because they were struck by a bullet.  There are 350,000,000 guns in 65,000,000 households across America.  There is no possible way that the government can possibly do anything to eliminate gun ownership in our country.  This is what the republican politicians, NRA, and fearful gun owners want you to believe… They want you to think that Obama is going to send someone to your house and take your guns… It is ludicrous and idiotic that some people really believe this.  But here is a question… Do you have any connection to someone who has been shot? If you do then you have a stake in this discussion and it is not really about mental health… On any given day any given teenager may feel that their life isn’t worth living… Do you want that child to have access to a gun? I saw someone post hat gun violence is down… Super… Does that change he fact that 30,000 Americans die from guns every year? I don’t think so…

President Obama did one small thing… Good for him! I hope our next president doesn’t have as many people standing in their way so they can do more… I’ve never owned a gun, I don’t want one in my house, and I believe in gun control… get with it, America!